The Game Called Life

According to Wikipedia, games are a universal part of human experience and present in all cultures.  All games have goals (the “win”), rules, challenge and interaction.  Games require skill, strategy or luck, or some combination of all three. 

 Isn’t that a perfect definition of life?

 The good news is that in the Game of Life, the player gets to define the “win.”  And can, if they are willing, control the skill and strategy with which he or she plays the game.  Just like a football player can train to perfect his physical skills and study film and opponents to perfect his mental or strategic skills, participants in the game of Life can train to perfect their Life skills.

The first step, of course, is to define the “win.”   Because Life is a very loooonnngggg game, while it’s important to have some sense of what you want people to say about you at your 85th birthday party, you’ll have a lot of interim goals along the way.  Often, defining the “win” is the most difficult.  It requires thoughtful introspection and the willingness to be brutally honest with yourself.

Once you decide what your “wins” are, you can train, practice, and rehearse the strategic and effective Thinking 2 Steps Ahead process to determine if every move (action, resource allocation, interpersonal interaction, etc.) you make helps advance you to your win, or sets you back in achieving that win. 

For instance, for a student who decides that she wants to pursue a medical career, choosing to take elective classes in music theory rather than biology would not be a good example of Thinking 2 Steps Ahead.   Or a man trying to convince a woman that he is good husband material would not advance his cause by making a pass at her best friend.

Have you thought about what your “win” is?  If not, how do you decide to spend your time, energy and money?  Stay tuned to learn and develop a new, very simple yet highly effective Life Skill – Thinking 2 Steps Ahead.

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40 Days of Focus

 All week I’ve been hearing about a group of Christians who believe Judgment Day was coming May 21, 2011.  Someone even spent some big money to purchase an electronic bill board on the highway to let everyone know.  But months ago I scheduled a Thinking 2 Steps Ahead class for Woman 2 Woman so that’s how I spent my morning.

 The Judgment Day billboard was the most blatant, but all week I’ve been picking up “signs” that it’s time to really focus and get some things I’ve been thinking (and procrastinating) about done.  As my friend Kim so often says: I don’t want to die with the music still in me.  

Impulsively, I did something yesterday that I’ve never done before.   I asked my Thinking 2 Steps Ahead class participants to hold me accountable for getting the Thinking 2 Steps Ahead blog (a revision of my old static website) up and functioning.  The class was a great group of women and I know they’ll honor my request and dog me until it’s done. 

Later, at home, I started mentally cataloging all the “signs” I’ve seen lately (I’ll blog about those soon).  For years I’ve been saying that I’m working on (fill in the blank).  Truth is I’ve been lying to myself.  “Working on” does not mean thinking about.   I made a commitment to myself to stop talking about the things I say I’m going to do and actually DO them. 

So today begins my 40 Days of Focus journey.  These are the things I am committing to focus on for the next 40 days.  

  1. Thinking 2 Steps Ahead – Changing the static website to a blog.
  2. Eating intentionally – making conscious choices about what I eat.
  3. Move more – make choices to decrease my very sedentary lifestyle.
  4. Writing – developing the blog should be great at creating a writing routine.

Focus…that’s the only thing I’m concentrating on for 40 days.   Let’s see what consequences it brings.

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